THE ROLES OF A MAN

ROLES OF A MAN

• What does a man do in the 21^st century?
• The traditional family and society, gender roles were clearly defined, roles we predictable.
• The man owned land, went hunting, made enough children to enlarge the clan.
• Protected the community and family from hostile tribes – bows, arrows, knife, club ect.
• Generally the man provided, protected and led the family
• Each community also had the list of things not allowed for men to do like;

1. 1. 1. Cooking and kitchen work, sweeping, making the bed.
      2. Knitting, sawing clothes, washing babies, cleaning
      3. These were unmanly and feminine

CHANGES

• Things have changed so much – men cook/clean babies
• Traditional village has no prescribed duties for gender
• Women nowadays bring food home, build houses and are investing
• Women go to war, study science, politics, play football

CONFUSION

• During this transition – role confusion
• Men are confused – they still want a woman to make meals
• Even when she is an engineer doing hrs
• Even masai men no longer carry the sword, spear, knife, club, rungu – mkamba – no bow and arrows

Despite the change of roles (STU WEBER) in his book (FOUR PILLARS OF A MAN) he identifies four pillars that a man stands on.

1. King
2. Warrior
3. Mentor
4. Friend (K.W.M.F)

They can be taken as roles of a man in any culture

1. MAN THE KING (Gen. 2:15)

• Adam was to work and take care
• Adam was to take charge of the place – domineer
• Adam was to take responsibility for the happenings in his domain or dominion.
• Adam was to lead, ensure peace and order in the realm of his kingdom.
• There is a king in every man – men love to be respected because they are kings
• A man world die for honor – man was born to conquer his realm and rule in it.
• The king in every man wants feel in-charge of the relationship, family, finances and work.

FUNCTIONS OF A KING

1. Leadership – he was created first, then woman

• He named all animals, trees, his woman
• To lead is to be in charge, in front, initiate influence, show the way, vision.
• Leadership starts with self-leadership – known where you going
• Leadership means you are in charge of your life – don’t let habit, business, career friendship takeover
• Leadership means you draw boundaries for yourself
• Bring order and peace to your own life – first
• Can your wife trust you with her life? Children
• The leader provides vision, hope for the future, a leader does not dominate but facilitate based on sacrifice
• A real man has a land to conquer, something to accomplish, a mission in life a cause to live for and legacy to leave behind
• A king uses his gift, strength and power to build a kingdom
• Power is not to be abused – when power gets into the head of a man, the man gets mad. He hurts those he is support to protect – a king is a servant

2. Provision

• God placed man in the garden that had fruits, gold and precious stones, water and animals – to manage.
• Just like a president of a nation is to grow the economy – a man must grow the economy of his kingdom family
• Ensure that your kingdom is

3. Characteristics of a king

• Integrity – values and convictions – oath to protect and defend (Psalm 89:14)
• The king is man in and under authority
• Selfless – a time king is benevolent, a hero who seeks good for his own – to flourish and blossom
• Do not abdicate – absent king – the people scatter- lawlessness – boys – criminal, girls prostitute – looking for love – because their hero left home – get back to the throne – your family
• Insecure men lead though threats and use force

1. THE MAN, THE MENTOR OR ELDER (GEN 2:16-17)

• Man was given instructions – what to do and what not to do
• Man was told how life works in the kingdom
• Adam was warned to do things right or die.
• A man must know how life works
• A man is at his best when he mentors others – wife and children

FUNCTIONS OF A MENTOR

1. Model – live life so that others can emulate you.

Be an example of masculinity

• Jesus Christ was the best model – he modelled sacrifice, simplicity and dedication to the cause.
• Man – be a good example in finance, morality and work (they are watching you.)

2. Coach – to couch is to advice, train, correct discipline and callout – the elder is commuted to the next generation.

• Are you in the field with your kids – or absent

CHARACTERISTICS OF AN ELDER/MENTOR

1. Authentic – real
2. Communicator – communicate wisdom – not jokes

Teach your daughter about boys

Teach your son about masculinity

• Can your children, relatives, church emulate you For good
• MAN – THE WORRIER (GEN 2:15)
• The worrier is the most celebrated of the roles of man
• Adam was asked to protect his kingdom, he was to keep the enemy away
• Adams- his wife was seduces while Adam was listening

FUNCTIONS

Protects – defense and offense – the enemy will not gain ground on your territory

Perseveres – the worrier does not give up – find to the end Job persevered. (the snail and fortock the ark (2 Tim 4:6-8)

CHARACTERISTICS

1. Courage
2. Discipline – a soldier belongs to the disciplined for us

A wounded woman can’t even chase a fly – allows addictions wrong people and wrong habits to control him.

MAN – THE FRIEND Gen 2:16

• Man was made for relationships. Intimacy and community.
• Every-man needs a beauty he can die for and a brother to fight with.
• All men struggle to truly express and open their lives and let others in.
• All men have a desire to love and to be loved
• Lover of wife and a band of brothers needed (proverbs 17:17)
• Be a friend to your children

FUNCTIONS

Is to Connect – Comfort – loving and loyal

Is your wife your friend? Have you invested in your friendship? Are your children your friends or opposition.

Conclusion;

>King – Mentor – Warrior – Friend How are you

>Doing? What is your strongest Pillar – weakest?

>What plans do you have to strengthen your weak pillars – write a clear, measurable goal with a timeline?