Mens Ministry by Rev, DR. Willy Mutiso

THE ROLES OF A MAN

ROLES OF A MAN

  • What does a man do in the 21st century?
  • The traditional family and society, gender roles were clearly defined, roles we predictable.
  • The man owned land, went hunting, made enough children to enlarge the clan.
  • Protected the community and family from hostile tribes – bows, arrows, knife, club ect.
  • Generally the man provided, protected and led the family
  • Each community also had the list of things not allowed for men to do like;
      1. Cooking and kitchen work, sweeping, making the bed.
      2. Knitting, sawing clothes, washing babies, cleaning
      3. These were unmanly and feminine
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CHANGES

  • Things have changed so much – men cook/clean babies
  • Traditional village has no prescribed duties for gender
  • Women nowadays bring food home, build houses and are investing
  • Women go to war, study science, politics, play football

CONFUSION

  • During this transition – role confusion
  • Men are confused – they still want a woman to make meals
  • Even when she is an engineer doing hrs
  • Even masai men no longer carry the sword, spear, knife, club, rungu – mkamba – no bow and arrows

Despite the change of roles (STU WEBER) in his book (FOUR PILLARS OF A MAN) he identifies four pillars that a man stands on.

  1. King
  2. Warrior
  3. Mentor
  4. Friend (K.W.M.F)

They can be taken as roles of a man in any culture

  1. MAN THE KING (Gen. 2:15)
  • Adam was to work and take care
  • Adam was to take charge of the place – domineer
  • Adam was to take responsibility for the happenings in his domain or dominion.
  • Adam was to lead, ensure peace and order in the realm of his kingdom.
  • There is a king in every man – men love to be respected because they are kings
  • A man world die for honor – man was born to conquer his realm and rule in it.
  • The king in every man wants feel in-charge of the relationship, family, finances and work.

FUNCTIONS OF A KING

  1. Leadership – he was created first, then woman
  • He named all animals, trees, his woman
  • To lead is to be in charge, in front, initiate influence, show the way, vision.
  • Leadership starts with self-leadership – known where you going
  • Leadership means you are in charge of your life – don’t let habit, business, career friendship takeover
  • Leadership means you draw boundaries for yourself
  • Bring order and peace to your own life – first
  • Can your wife trust you with her life? Children
  • The leader provides vision, hope for the future, a leader does not dominate but facilitate based on sacrifice
  • A real man has a land to conquer, something to accomplish, a mission in life a cause to live for and legacy to leave behind
  • A king uses his gift, strength and power to build a kingdom
  • Power is not to be abused – when power gets into the head of a man, the man gets mad. He hurts those he is support to protect – a king is a servant
  1. Provision
  • God placed man in the garden that had fruits, gold and precious stones, water and animals – to manage.
  • Just like a president of a nation is to grow the economy – a man must grow the economy of his kingdom family
  • Ensure that your kingdom is
  1. Characteristics of a king
  • Integrity – values and convictions – oath to protect and defend (Psalm 89:14)
  • The king is man in and under authority
  • Selfless – a time king is benevolent, a hero who seeks good for his own – to flourish and blossom
  • Do not abdicate – absent king – the people scatter- lawlessness – boys – criminal, girls prostitute – looking for love – because their hero left home – get back to the throne – your family
  • Insecure men lead though threats and use force
  1. THE MAN, THE MENTOR OR ELDER (GEN 2:16-17)
  • Man was given instructions – what to do and what not to do
  • Man was told how life works in the kingdom
  • Adam was warned to do things right or die.
  • A man must know how life works
  • A man is at his best when he mentors others – wife and children

FUNCTIONS OF A MENTOR

  1. Model – live life so that others can emulate you.

Be an example of masculinity

  • Jesus Christ was the best model – he modelled sacrifice, simplicity and dedication to the cause.
  • Man – be a good example in finance, morality and work (they are watching you.)
  1. Coach – to couch is to advice, train, correct discipline and callout – the elder is commuted to the next generation.
  • Are you in the field with your kids – or absent

CHARACTERISTICS OF AN ELDER/MENTOR

  1. Authentic – real
  2. Communicator – communicate wisdom – not jokes

Teach your daughter about boys

Teach your son about masculinity

  • Can your children, relatives, church emulate you For good
  • MAN – THE WORRIER (GEN 2:15)
  • The worrier is the most celebrated of the roles of man
  • Adam was asked to protect his kingdom, he was to keep the enemy away
  • Adams- his wife was seduces while Adam was listening

FUNCTIONS

Protects – defense and offense – the enemy will not gain ground on your territory

Perseveres – the worrier does not give up – find to the end Job persevered. (the snail and fortock the ark (2 Tim 4:6-8)

CHARACTERISTICS

  1. Courage
  2. Discipline – a soldier belongs to the disciplined for us

A wounded woman can’t even chase a fly – allows addictions wrong people and wrong habits to control him.

MAN – THE FRIEND Gen 2:16

  • Man was made for relationships. Intimacy and community.
  • Every-man needs a beauty he can die for and a brother to fight with.
  • All men struggle to truly express and open their lives and let others in.
  • All men have a desire to love and to be loved
  • Lover of wife and a band of brothers needed (proverbs 17:17)
  • Be a friend to your children

FUNCTIONS

Is to Connect – Comfort – loving and loyal

Is your wife your friend? Have you invested in your friendship? Are your children your friends or opposition.

Conclusion;

>King – Mentor – Warrior – Friend How are you

>Doing? What is your strongest Pillar – weakest?

>What plans do you have to strengthen your weak pillars – write a clear, measurable goal with a timeline?

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Rev, DR. Willy Mutiso

Rev, Dr. Willy Mutiso is the Senior Pastor at First Baptist Athiriver. He is widely known for his practical and dynamic teaching style which helps people apply the timeless truths of Scripture to their everyday lives.

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